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Event name: Cocktail/play party for the Intellectually Inclined, Central London
Event Date: 17/10/15 (DD/MM/YY)
Start Time: 6.30pm                                                       
End Time: Midnight                                                     
Event Theme:
Intellectually-inclined doms socialize in formal London gentlemen’s club setting, served by subs. Private play party, like-minded newcomers welcome. To apply follow the HOW TO ATTEND instructions in description below. 
Description:
SUMMARY
Intellectually-inclined doms socialize in formal London gentlemen’s club setting, served by subs. Private play party, like-minded newcomers welcome. To apply follow the HOW TO JOIN US instructions below, clicking *I'm Going* or *Maybe* doesn't count!


WHO WE ARE
* Loosely knit group of intellectually inclined pervs.
* Enjoy psychological control fantasies in a group and collaborative setting, along lines of *The Story of O*.
* Reasonably presentable people who enjoy dressing stylishly and looking our best.
* Attend these parties for the fun and/or make new friends.
* For some of us, these events are gateways to more intense private parties, with group-oriented BDSM play among people who know each other.
* Mainly heterosexual group but gay/bi/trannie etc welcome.


THE SETTING: LONDON GENTLEMEN’S CLUB
The scene is a London gentlemen's club for the intellectually inclined. Ten to twelve ladies and gentlemen, all dominants, gather for an elegant fantasy cocktail party, to enjoy [the pleasures of intellectual conversation][http://imageprocessor.websimages.com/width/259/crop/0,0,258x153/www.cocomatchmaker.com/25f24club1-461659.jpg]. It's far from the madding crowd, and rather like being at London's [Athenaeum Club][http://www.athenaeumclub.co.uk/].

Well, up to a point. This club has pervy members, who are served by equally pervy submissive staff. Whose duty it is to make life as pleasant as possible for members.


6.30PM. ARRIVAL OF SUBS & PREPARATION
Subs—around ten to 12 of them, both sexes--arrive at 6.30pm promptly. They are met by the major domo, who reviews the [https://fetlife.com/users/3225161/posts/3281593][main rules of the party] and organizes the service rota. During the evening, each sub will alternate between two roles:
* In-service: opening doors, preparing or serving drinks and hors d’oeuvres, washing up, etc. or
* On-call. Here each sub waits discreetly at the side of the room, ready to be summoned by a dom for the pleasures of their conversation or play.

The major domo also addresses any questions, such as how best to chat with doms you want to chat with, or what to do when you don’t want to play with someone.

Finally, each sub puts on a name/ice breaker badge, along with their likes/dislikes/limits form. The subs then make themselves ready, and retire to a side room to chat together and socialize, awaiting the doms’ arrival.


7PM. DOMS/CLUB MEMBERS ARRIVE, FORMALITIES
Club members/doms—around ten to 12 of them, both sexes—arrive at 7pm promptly. They are greeted by several subs who take their coats, put on their name/ice-breaker badge, escort them to the clubroom, provide drinks, and introduce them to the evening’s host Mr Darcy. Upon entering the clubroom, they are in role as club members.

At 7.15pm, Mr Darcy says a few welcoming words to the gathered members, and reviews the *Red Book*, which identifies the BDSM proclivities and services offered of each sub. He then reviews the [https://fetlife.com/users/3225161/posts/3281593][main rules of the party]. Member then discuss and organize the upcoming presentations/inspections.

Finally, each member jots down an interesting current affairs topic, such as might be discussed in [The Economist][http://www.economist.com/], on a slip of paper. These are put in a bowl, for later use.


7.30PM. PRESENTATIONS & INSPECTIONS
At about 7.30pm, the subs are instructed to enter the main clubroom. They line up facing a wall, on their knees or sitting comfortably. Each sub is then briefly presented to the group (either by their master or mistress, or by one of the members), and inspected by members. After a sub is presented, he/she returns to face the wall.

Following the presentations, each dom meets each sub individually. The two-way discussion usually includes a review of each person’s name/ice-breaker badge, and the sub’s likes/dislikes/limits form. After two minutes, each sub moves to the next dom, until all doms and subs have met.

In-service subs then retire to perform their duties, serving drinks and hors d’oeuvres, and so on. They will continue in service according to the earlier agreed-upon rota.

On-call subs retreat to a side of the main clubroom, where they may kneel or sit comfortably. They may chat discreetly among themselves, but must be ready to attend doms at any time. They continue on call until the rota requires them to move to a service role.


8PM. MAIN PARTY PROCEEDS
At about 8pm the core event proceeds, and members socialize at their leisure. For the most part, discussion is refined, courteous, and civilized, although at times it becomes bawdy. Debate is welcomed as stimulating, and no-one is intolerant of opposing views. No topic is taboo, including politics and religion.

Early on, Mr Darcy introduces the wines, which were imported from California especially for the event. Should the conversation flag at any point, one of the members pulls a topic from the hat, and the author makes some comments to initiate discussion.

Throughout, in-service subs provide hors d’oeuvres and drinks. At this time, members’ conversation and play with them is necessarily limited. Members conversation and play is usually focused on on-call subs, who are available in the clubroom.

If at any time the group conversation lags, one of the current affairs topics is pulled out of the bowl, and the member concerned gets things going again by sharing a few thoughts on the topic.

Members are free at any time to review the Red Book and its menu of possible pleasures. On-call subs are often summoned for the delights of their conversation and companionship, and for the delights of play. Most play and conversation with subs is in a group setting, because it’s considered impolite for members to ignore other members. When no longer needed, subs either return to the waiting area, or are passed on to other members.

Periodically, the mix of in-service and on-call subs is changed, as defined by the earlier agreed rota.

Towards the end of the evening, the loving cup ceremony takes place, with [one neighbour facing away, and the other supporting the drinker][ http://www.feltmakers.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/Banquet-2010-Loving-cup-423.jpg].

Doms and subs are encouraged to stay until at least 11pm; the party formally ends at midnight. Depending on the remaining participants, it may be extended to an informal after-party.


STRICT DRESS CODE
* Female dominants: Cocktail dress, long formal gown, or something elegant that expresses your dominance
* Male dominants: Black tie (dinner jacket aka tuxedo and matching trousers, bow tie, optional cummerbund)
* Female submissives: Stylish lingerie, or attractive clothing that highlights your allure and sex appeal, or as instructed by your dom. Plus collar
* Male submissives: G-strings or as instructed by your dom. Plus collar

Look your best. There are changing facilities. We want to preserve the atmosphere, so if you don't conform to the dress code, you will be asked to leave.


HOW TO ATTEND
Like-minded newcomers are welcome to join us. You must understand how to participate in fantasy play; this is not about setting up a sexist environment where women are the play toys of disrespectful men a la *Playboy Club*. This is about setting up a fantasy environment, where subs choose what services they are willing to provide and doms respect subs’ limits. It allows subs who enjoy service, objectification, and being used as a sex toy to fulfill those fantasies in a safe environment.

Subs, including those accompanied by their master or mistress, should expect to play with at least two or three doms.

Contact [MrDarcy4321][https://fetlife.com/users/3225161] (email mrdarcydom@gmail.com), expressing your desire to come:
* Provide information which suggests you are like-minded, as described in WHO WE ARE section above.
* Provide photos that give a realistic impression of what you look like. The photos don't have to be erotic.
* Your FL profile probably provides the information and photos, if not please provide these.

Note that RSVPing with "Going" or "Maybe Going" is not the way to attend this private party. Most people attending don't appear on either of the RSVP lists, and we don't check the RSVP lists.


SEEKING VOLUNTEERS
Let us know if you can arrive early to help with setup and/or organizing submissives during the party. It’s a great way to get to know the organizers in person, and it ups your priority. Plus it’s a way to give something back. And it’s really nice thing to do.


SAFE ENVIRONMENT
No-one does anything they don't want to do. Safe words are respected at all times. In case of doubt, a submissive can simply say something like "I'm sorry Sir/Madam, I'm not able to offer that service this evening".

There are various additional ways that submissives can reassure themselves that this is a safe environment. We suggest:
* We can introduce you to other submissives who will be attending. You can chat with them beforehand, and/or accompany them to the party.
* [MrDarcy4321][https://fetlife.com/users/3225161] has been in the BDSM scene for 15 years. He can provide references from organizers of established and respected Fetlife groups such as [London Roissy Group][https://fetlife.com/groups/92113] and San Francisco's [Master's Den][https://fetlife.com/groups/1994]. Alternatively, you may have friends in common that can vouch for him or others attending the party.
* You can give the address to a friend. You can then telephone or text them periodically, to let them know all's well. If you don't contact them, or you use a pre-arranged expression that is a disguised call for help, your friend can alert the police.


WHO GETS PRIORITY?
We give top priority to:
* People who provide information showing that they are probably like-minded, and provide photos that give a realistic impression of what they look like.
* Males accompanied by a female, to help maintain gender balance.
* People who volunteer to help with setup and/or organizing the submissives.

We give low priority to:
* People who don't provide information showing that they are probably like-minded, and who don't provide photos that give a realistic impression of what they look like.
* People who think that RSVPing with "Going" or "Maybe Going" is the way to apply.
* People who were accepted to other parties, but did a no-show.


OTHER INFORMATION
* There is a minimum of 20 people, and a maximum of 24 people.
* We will have approximate gender parity.
* Based on past experience, around 80% of doms will be male; around 80% of subs will be female; most males will be heterosexual; around 60% of women will be bisexual. 
Dress Code:
* Female dominants: Cocktail dress, long formal gown, or something elegant that expresses your dominance
* Male dominants: Black tie (dinner jacket aka tuxedo and matching trousers, bow tie, optional cummerbund)
* Female submissives: Stylish lingerie, or attractive clothing that highlights your allure and sex appeal, or as instructed by your dom. Plus collar
* Male submissives: G-strings or as instructed by your dom. Plus collar 
Cost of Entry: No Charge                                                    
Venue:
Private residence, Covent Garden/Soho. Address provided upon acceptance 
Email: mrdarcydom@gmail.com